Listen to one of his productivity mental health advices: "Poisonous people don't deserve your time."
I knew it was too hard for Mike, an addictive patient. When he entered therapy to care for his fragile wounded life, his mother was critical. She'd blame and judge him for his failures.
She said that therapy was a waste of money and he could do it on his own.
Accept that family and friends may not be the best people to support your healing journey. They may misunderstand your needs through disinterest and uncaring.
Even all the way to shaming or verbal abuse. Such is what happens when you spend time with "poisonous people" in general.
Remember, if you're just starting to heal your emotional wounds, you just have a tiny seedling with tiny leaves above the earth.
It's extra vulnerable to being crushed when wind and rain come. So you would have to care for it as you would any fragile thing in your life.
Examine your present circle of support. Family, friends, mates. And ask these questions:
Are they supporting your fragile tiny seedling to flourish? Or, are they stomping on your growth?
Sometimes, you've to clear space for someone or something new to emerge. It's hard but you've to do that in order to heal and grow.
Know the people who deserve your time. Find them, wherever they are. You need them. They'll protect and nurture you till you become stronger.
from Dr. Angelo O. Subida, Psychotherapist http://www.drsubida.com/2018/07/people-who-deserve-your-time.html


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